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    I could really use some advice and I'm wondering if this is the way to go... I've always wanted to homeschool but wondered if I have what it takes. Now, I need to think of a way to help my son... Read on...
    CHAPTER 1: I've got a lot to say...
    My son is in second grade in the public school system
    and it looks as though he will be repeating 2nd grade.
    His grades range from 0 to 100 in both math and
    reading. He is stubborn and when he sets his mind
    against something he will hold his ground. I have
    spent some nights doing homework with him for 3 hours
    (should be about 30 minutes if he reads for 20 minutes
    to me).
    In the state tests (I think they are SAT10), he scored
    50/51 in math and a 5 in reading (yes, I said 5 - I
    think a poke and hope bubble test would produce a
    better score than that).
    We have made a lot of progress over the last year in
    homework time (once he finally decides he's not going
    to win the fight, he makes a 180 and does his work.
    While doing his homework (in the cooperative mood), I
    can see that he knows what he's doing. He can do the
    work and tell me how/why he got there. I really don't
    think his test scores are reflecting his ability and I
    would like to somehow have him retested for placement.
    Do I have to switch schools or start homeschooling him
    to get this done?
    I've got an appointment with his pedi to talk to her
    about the behavioral part of this issue.
    What do I do? Who do I talk to? How can I help him?
    His teacher and guidance counselor have never given
    suggestions no matter how many times I've asked what I
    could do. I simply leave any teacher conference with
    the attitude that I'll be tougher on him. He's never
    been sent to the 'Focus Room' or the office but there
    have been comments on his attitude/behavior. I've
    finally learned about the existence of IEP programs and
    I'm wondering if they shouldn't have been implemented.
    The teacher/counselor have never even recommended
    this...
    I've got so much more to say but I would like some
    thoughts from those who've seen things like this. I am
    very willing to work with him through the summer (there
    are no summer study programs here for 2nd graders -
    starts in 3 rd grade) to get him caught up and ready
    for 3rd grade but the teacher/counselor tell me there
    is nothing I can do (I'm sorry, but I have a hard time
    thinking that there is NOTHING I CAN DO to help him.
    They can't do a portfolio for him because his average
    grade for reading (and all the sections within that
    subject - comprehension, vocabulary, etc) is a 66 and
    they won't do it unless he is at least a C avg. Even
    with a D average - that doesn't equate to a 5 on the
    state test. I don't want to push him past his
    abilities and I truly think he is a much better student
    than his tests reflect.
    Again.... What do I do? Who do I talk to? How can I
    help him?
    I feel lost because I don't know what resources are
    available or how to search them out... ANY HELP and
    advice would be greatly treasured and considered.
    I am a work at home mom and can do what I need with my
    schedule to make this work for him.
    CHAPTER 2: I'VE GOT A LOT TO DO... (a chapter in the
    planning stages)
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    Hello and welcome! I can't give you any advice on a personal level, but I think that you'll find most of us here are big advocates for homeschooling. You can try some summer homeschooling with your son, and see if he responds well to that. Time4Learning can be used very well over the summer, and VocabularySpellingCity has an excellent summer program that they just started too. If he enjoys homeschooling, and you see improvements and a desire to learn, then maybe it's the right choice for you guys.

    If you really wanted to leave him in public school, but just want him re-evaluated/re-tested/re-placed...you may have to go above your school. I don't know if they will let you pull him, and put him back within the same school year, and move him up a grade. I mean, if you pull him out and he's in 2nd, they may not let him move to 3rd in the same school year. If the school principal says there is nothing they can do, you may have to appeal to your local school board, or even as high as the Florida Dept of Ed. I'm honestly not sure though.

    I am sorry you're struggling, but I do hope you at least give homeschooling a shot over the summer. I would like to invite you to join the Florida homeschool forum we have here. You may have a better shot at finding someone near you, who has gone through something similar.

    Good luck, and I look forward to checking back in with you to see how things are going...
    Katie
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    Accidentally homeschooling since 2005!



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    Hi Katie (funny... that's always been one of my favorite girl names!)
    Thank you so much for replying - it feels good to have a person reach out - I spent the first 2 days crying because I felt like I had no direction. Now I'm just searching for options. Homeschooling has been a long time dream since before my boys were born (2 boys, 5 & 8). I believe homeschooling gives a child a better chance at reaching his potential because it goes at his speed (not the flow of traffic). I'm still skiddish about my own abilities to bring him to his potential but I think the summer will give me better insight.
    If I were to start homeschooling him, how would I know where to start him (grade level)?
    I have a meeting set up today with his guidance councelor and teacher to try and get input on resources. The principal, school board and state... that's direction - I'll seek further advice there.
    We've used spelling city through the year to help with his spelling studies - thanks for the tip on the summer program - I'm starting to feel excited for the recommendations.
    Still, if anyone has any other thoughts or ideas, I'm certainly open to the suggestions.
    Here's to HOPE!!
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    You're so welcome! I hope others can chime in for you...

    Honestly, if he just completed the 2nd grade, I would give him a shot at the 3rd grade level in Time4Learning. See if he is in fact really ready to move forward to that grade level. The great thing about T4L is the flexibility, so if you place him in 3rd grade, he should have access to the 2nd and 4th grade levels as well. Just in case he needs to review something in the 2nd grade material.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Psst Over Here View Post
    CHAPTER 1: I've got a lot to say...
    My son is in second grade in the public school system
    and it looks as though he will be repeating 2nd grade.
    His grades range from 0 to 100 in both math and
    reading. He is stubborn and when he sets his mind
    against something he will hold his ground. I have
    spent some nights doing homework with him for 3 hours
    (should be about 30 minutes if he reads for 20 minutes
    to me).
    In the state tests (I think they are SAT10), he scored
    50/51 in math and a 5 in reading (yes, I said 5 - I
    think a poke and hope bubble test would produce a
    better score than that).
    We have made a lot of progress over the last year in
    homework time (once he finally decides he's not going
    to win the fight, he makes a 180 and does his work.
    While doing his homework (in the cooperative mood), I
    can see that he knows what he's doing. He can do the
    work and tell me how/why he got there. I really don't
    think his test scores are reflecting his ability and I
    would like to somehow have him retested for placement.
    Do I have to switch schools or start homeschooling him
    to get this done?
    I've got an appointment with his pedi to talk to her
    about the behavioral part of this issue.
    What do I do? Who do I talk to? How can I help him?
    His teacher and guidance counselor have never given
    suggestions no matter how many times I've asked what I
    could do. I simply leave any teacher conference with
    the attitude that I'll be tougher on him. He's never
    been sent to the 'Focus Room' or the office but there
    have been comments on his attitude/behavior. I've
    finally learned about the existence of IEP programs and
    I'm wondering if they shouldn't have been implemented.
    The teacher/counselor have never even recommended
    this...

    I feel lost because I don't know what resources are
    available or how to search them out... ANY HELP and
    advice would be greatly treasured and considered.
    I am a work at home mom and can do what I need with my
    schedule to make this work for him.
    CHAPTER 2: I'VE GOT A LOT TO DO... (a chapter in the
    planning stages)
    I understand exactly where you are coming from. My daughter went through exactly what your son is going through. It was like waging a war everytime homework was mentioned. In class, it was either she did the work or didn't. There was no moving her once she made up her mind. The most disturbing part was how unhappy she was...she even tried to run away.
    In January, I removed her from public schools and entered her in an unique private school- a freedom of democracy school. I would need 5 pages to explain, but just say it is like a homeschool group. It allows children to be children and mature at their rate, not the rate the school demands. It seems that in the standards driven society, we have forgotten that children are human beings (not just numbers!) that develop differently. My daughter's emotional and social development was way behind her physical and this hindered her educational ability. She literally was not able to understand the "why" behind all the demands and high stakes. By removing her from the stressful environment and allowing her emotional/social growth, she is a new person. Before she displayed classic signs of depression, now I often have to ask her not to laugh so much! She has grown leaps and bounds, and now is ready to tackle the academic side. She even asked to go back to the school.

    To answer your question: "Should I homeschool my child?" Only if you can. Look for homeschool groups or alternative public school options. I am a teacher and a sinigle parent, so homeschooling was not an option for me (really frustrating!) Absolutely find a way to let your child's social/emotional growth catch up. If the school that your child is attending is not working out for your child, find somewhere else. Most importantly: listen to your child. I didn't do that for a long time...

    I hope that helps!

    -Katie

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    Very well said wyspergrove. Listening to your child is the most important thing.
    Kathi Homeschooling Mama to Twelve year old Dakota

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