PS or HS for special needs?
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    Do you HS or PS your special needs child(ren)?

    What considerations went into that choice?

    What do you personally feel are the pros and cons of each?

    What did you look for in a HS curriculum?

    What would you look for in a PS program?

    Any other tips for making this decision?

    Do you hear me screaming inside? Yikes!
    Melissa.

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    Melissa,

    I am homeschooling my 12 year old DS who has Asperger's Syndrome. He just finished 6th grade and we started homeschooling in November of his 5th grade year. DS wasn't diagnosed with Asperger's until the middle of fourth grade.

    Academically, he never had problems in public school. He is very bright. Socially and emotionally, public school was difficult for him. I have heard it said that, socially and emotionally, a person with Asperger's operates at about 2/3 of their chronological age. When a child is 4 and acts like a 2-2/3 year old it is not so terribly bad or unusual. However a 10 year old who acts like a 6-2/3 year old could really struggle, as my DS did.

    DS situation was complicated by his intelligence. Because he is so intellectually smart, many people (his teachers included) expected him to be emotionally and socially mature also. When he wasn't, they assumed he was being manipulative and acting that way on purpose, therefore they felt that punishing him would keep him from acting in those ways again. Of course it didn't. It just made him feel worse and worse about himself because much of it was out of his control at that time.

    When DS started spending more of his public school days away from his peers than with them, public school lost its only purpose for my son (in my eyes). I knew that public school could never meet his academic and intellectual needs, but I did feel that it could provide a social learning environment for him (he is an only child). When the stress of being in that environment led him to eat lunch by himself in the office area and to choose to do much of his schoolwork in the "quiet room" that was set up for him, he was away from his peers anyway. I decided that it no long made sense to force him to go there every day just to be miserable and gain nothing.

    Every child is different. And, really, so is every school. Only you can make the best decision for your child. You are your child's first teacher. And in many, many ways you are his best teacher. You know him better than any other teacher ever could. And you love him and care about him more than any other teacher would. You are in a unique position to know what is likely to work for your child and what isn't. I would suggest that you visit any school that you are thinking about enrolling your child in. Ask lots of questions. Observe in the classrooms that your child could be in. Ask about the staff's experience with your child's special need. And don't be afraid to change direction if what you first decided isn't working out.

    I wish you all the best in your decision-making process. Trust your "mommy gut."

    April

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    Wow, that was so incredibly helpful. \/
    Melissa.

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    April, I LOVED your response. It was so filled with grace and wisdom. Thank you for sharing. (((Big Hugs)))

    We have chosen to homeschool, though we've done private speech therapy, neurodevelopmental therapy and Brain integration therapy. (The latter two are for parents to administer at home once they meet with a specialist)
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